A new client recently shared that, as a kid, they made the decision that feelings were dangerous. What do you do with your emotions? Are they safe to acknowledge and share with others, or do they need to be concealed and ignored? As a child, we had to figure out which emotions were safe to acknowledge and express in our family. Maybe it was safe for Dad or Mom to get really angry, but way out of...read more
If you love what you see in your partner, that says a whole lot about you. Did you know that your relationship with your partner is reflected in your relationship with yourself?
Perhaps you find yourself getting upset with your significant partner for how they are acting. Do you ever find yourself being impatient with others for what they’re doing or not doing with their life? Do you look at those around you and feel like, “If they’d just listen to me, they’d be way better off?” While others might feel irritating to you, what you are really seeing is a reflection of...read more
Helping each other unpack our baggage is the key to a healthy, lasting relationship. Is this what you’re doing for one another or are you hiding your bags in the basement and hoping your partner never discovers what’s in them? We all come into relationship with our own baggage. When we’re first dating, we show our partner the best of who we are, and our rose-colored glasses only allow us to see...read more
How would it feel if your relationship was such a safe place that you could talk about absolutely anything with your partner?
The fact is that most of us have taboo topics in our relationship. Taboo Topics are those touchy subjects that many of us protect and just aren’t willing to look at -- and certainly aren’t willing to discuss. They’re so far off the table and out of bounds that even talking about talking about them will lead to offending someone or violating their unspoken boundaries. Ironically, when we are...read more
Do you ever feel like you’re not enough? Most people feel this way (at least secretly) in some areas of their life. Let’s take a look at why that is so. As a kid growing up, every time something happened that you couldn’t emotionally deal with, you shoved it down and stuffed it away. You stopped breathing, went up in your head, and protected yourself so you didn’t have to feel so much. The...read more
What does it take to have the kind of relationship where your partner just gets you? One where the two of you can talk about anything?
Instead of being that connected all the time, do you find you and your partner pushing each other’s buttons and bumping up against the same old painful issue? Are you tired of feeling like your relationship may be spinning out of control as you inwardly say, “Here we go again!”? It doesn’t matter how often it happens or how great it’s been in between. When the shit hits the relationship fan,...read more
It’s All About Connection: How well is your program for getting love working? And what is your program for getting love?
I’ve asked audiences around the world, “What does a child want more than anything else?” Their resounding answer is always “Love!” I follow that with, “What kind of love does a child want? Conditional, “I’ll love you if…” love, or unconditional, “I’ll love you no matter what” kind of love? Of course, everyone always knows that a child wants unconditional love more than anything else. If that’s...read more
I hear many Influencers say that, “The past is just the past.” They tell us to just focus on our positive thoughts in order to create the life of our dreams. That sounds great – if only it were that easy! The reason this approach doesn’t work is that we’re only aware of about 5 percent of our thoughts – the ones that are conscious. So, even if we we’re able to make sure that our conscious...read more
Yes, mindfulness is the direct path to enlightenment, but it is also a practical path to living a happy, successful, and conscious life. Mindfulness takes you beyond just chasing the symptoms of a problem; it takes you to the actual source and solution. An inspiring idea without mindful follow through is nothing but a curious cloud that reminded you of a dragon.read more